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IZZY KALMAN, MS, NATIONALLY CERTIFIED SCHOOL PSYCHOLOGIST

I found Mr. Kalman's approach to bullying to be incredibly effective in my work with children and adolescents in the San Diego Unified School District. In my experience as a Family Therapist the shame that is interjected by young people that are subjected to pervasive bullying tactics is fraught with complications and double binds. Firstly the student suffers the indignity of being verbally assaulted by his own peers. He feels angry, defensive and powerless. Secondly he often feels shame at revealing his inferior status to his parents&hellip. Thirdly he recoils from their efforts to "rescue" him…because he knows that, more than likely, this will result in further ridiculing from the perpetrators.

Izzy Kalman's approach releases the "shame" factor. He teaches the student to develop the proverbial "duck's back" for the water to pour off of. The student develops an inner resiliency and sense of empowerment. He "allows" his tormentors to torment to their heart's content—and by responding (not reacting) with a calm and reflective posture—disables the threatening nature of the verbal attacks.

I have utilized Kalman's philosophical approach to bullying repeatedly over the past two years and I have always found it to be highly effective in even the most verbally abusive school environments.
Laila Evans, MFT, The Center For Family Development San Diego, CA

I have been using your method of handling bullies and teasing ever since I attended your seminar. I started immediately because I felt your strategies would work with the children I personally counsel. It has been wonderful to have the tools to help those children who experience bullying from peers. Not only has it given them actions to take that also help them understand they have control, but, in doing this, their self-esteem has increased.…

I also work three days a week at a children's home; we serve children placed from the department of family and children's services due to neglect and abuse. Your techniques of handling teasing has been such an asset to my collected resources in working with these children. It gives them a better understanding of their situation and they actually are willing to try your methods…they believe they can do it and they do! Thank you so much for the knowledge you have shared and for the many children you have helped.
Donna Hale, MS, LPC, Counselor/Therapist, Hephzibah Children's Home and Crossroads Counseling Center, Macon, Georgia